Friday, November 21, 2014

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As a person, we have the right to stand by our opinion and that is just how I feel. I have received many responses from adult and old people-like that they like my enthusiasm and positivity. Honestly, that did not mean much to me as I was brought up like that.

I am not saying that life goes on really smoothly and perfect for me. But I make the best out of everything. My parents went through a divorced when I was 21 and just started to step into the working society. My mother left our family when both my younger brothers are still small. We made our choices to stay with our father.

From then on, I fell back on the support of my other family, an organisation which I grew up in and call my second family. As far back that I can recall, a lot of my cultivation of character and moral went through the training ground of the organisation. That was the age where I was brought up to see the world, people from various background and to experience things beyond expectation.

Moral education which stops after we graduated from primary school became an extinct component in the education system nowadays. As they placed more focus and emphasis on creative thinking, speaking out, entrepreneurship it seems like they are tuning the kid's mind to think more of me, myself and I. 

Traditionally, we would also depend on family support and training but as parents gets stuck in their daily work responsibilities and duties, they in-turn place high expectations on the school. But it comes with a price, teachers cannot scold their children, their child is their baby and their "baby" is goind through a lot of "hardship" studying. Parents pressure the teachers to do the maximum to educate their child and even morally. 

I would say, teachers are taking it quite hard being caught in the middle (Education superior, principal, parents, students) so to all my friends who are teachers, Kudos to you! U got my respect, woah!

What I have always believed in and I do so till now, that learning never stop when I leave the classroom. But then again this thinking did not come to me PFA (Plug from Air), it was taught to me, I was trained by the best of the best mentor who I ever had. Every step and experience that I have is a learning lesson. I must learn to apply what I have seen and because I must be smart and wise. Do not fall into the trap that I must pay cash in order to learn. Life experiences can't be bought and it must be experienced (see that play on words tho).

After a few lessons of hard knocks and grilling, I also learned what I want to do and what I like. I realised that I cannot just let go of what I love just because someone says so. That brings me to the point that if it is meant to be, fate has it that it will play in front of you and you must grab it. Opportunity is all around, you just have to learn to grab it. I believe a lot in blind faith, cause when I was younger and I have not seen the world much (not that i have seen more right now, I am still learning) I was guided to just do it (Nike here). Nothing is impossible till I say so, just because no one else have tried it that doesn't mean it will not work!


PS: I gave up the stability of working in an organisation for many years to pursue my passion of what I love doing which is crafting up personalised services to cater to business set-up. Working with people who are nice and friendly makes the joy of serving them becoming real. I did not hesitate to just jump out of the aircraft. That was because I know for a fact that with Fear, I will not budge at all. So i choose to let it go and just jump off that wagon. 
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Wednesday, November 19, 2014

On 9:00 AM by siti shyuhaila in , , , , ,

Do you feel the need to overlook and control everything, from the meeting time, where to go out for fun and right down to the food which your friend eats when going out for a meal with friends?

I know that question seem overboard and way too much. But in fact, that is a weakness which I have. I cannot stand indecisiveness and slow thinkers. Not slow as in people who have a mental condition and are slow or people who are stupid. I am referring to people who do not have a sense of urgency in life or anything they do. Being brought up in Singapore, we all go through the system of processes and education.

In school, I was part of the school's NPCC as my CCA so it was a part of me that we were trained to be quick and responsive. When I started to join the work force, I am thankful for being in an organisation who had a culture of responsibility and accountability which kept me in check as a person as I grew up. Whenever a task was distributed or question was being asked, we were trained and taught to respond, it is a form of acknowledgement and respect for another human being.

What I noticed in the younger generation of kids nowadays, this was a much lacking skill set and it kept me wondering, where did we go wrong?

Are we being judged by all our actions that we chose to "slow down" our response so that we do not get caught doing the "wrong" things. On the other hand, kids are also being told that "failure is the mother of all success", if they do not do the wrong things then how can they learn. Are the adults so unforgiving when we see the younger generation doing something wrong?

Maybe it is time for us to step back and see the bigger picture, what the kids are doing may not be wrong because time change, everything and everyone evolved. What is being done now may not be applicable last time but vice versa what we went through last time may not work in such an era now.

I don't know...

The grass may be greener on the other side but do share with me what else would make you happy with the current grass on your side :)


Saturday, November 15, 2014

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Someone told me a story recently, two dogs went into the same room and when they came out their behaviour was a total opposite from each other. One dog came out barking happily and jumping up and down while the other came out growling like someone stole his favourite biscuit and he look like he could kill.

Out of curiosity, the person went into the room to see what was in there. He was surprised when he noticed that the room was just covered with mirrors from top to bottom and nothing else. He learnt that the happy dog went in and he saw hundreds and many more of happy dogs while the angry dog went in and saw many more of his berserk and angered kind.

Generally, this story was trying to teach us something and I took back a fair share of lessons which I could interpret into my life.

What I see will be reflected from my behaviour and people around me are just the reactive portion of my behaviour. Honestly, I think Karma plays a large role too. We do not have to wait for karma to come back to us another day, we can prevent it from happening right on day one. 

Superficiality and being fake lies on the other side of being optimistic and positive and there is just a thin line separating this that you can't help it when people who are not able to understand it judge you as being the fake one.

I have always been asked the question "why do you keep agreeing with that person? why are you so fake? why do you seem so happy ALL THE TIME?"

All I can reply is "That's me" and smile it off. The truth is that what would I get with showing displeasure and anger towards someone else. Why would I tell you that I am upset if I know that you are not the cause of it and you are not able to stop it.

People may tend to vent their anger on others sometimes and if we were unfortunate enough to receive them, we will so feel so pissed off and unfair right? The same thing applies, do not give to others what you would not want to receive.

So smile often and share happiness with others cause the world is round. No problems cannot be solved and if you do not look for help, you will definitely have no answer to it.

If there is one thing you can control, that is your manner and outlook on life. Being happy all the while doesn't mean you do not have any problems. It is about managing our emotions to deal with problems as they come with wisdom and maturity.


Tuesday, November 11, 2014

Bright dresses, shining jewelleries, spotlights on you, red carpet on the runway and camera flashes onto you. Does it seem glamourous enough for you? Do you love the wave of attention as you walk the runway?

Well, I know maybe some of us do :)

I had the opportunity recently to attend the Glamourous 2014 organised by Royalize International. It was a Beauty Pageant to crown Miss, Mister, Mrs and Senior Mrs Glamorous 2014. The finalist event was held at a fitting place non-other than Mambo Beach Club, Sentosa. It was a full, long day from 11am till 7pm where there was a long list of performance before the commencement of the main event and that is where the "stars" will walk the runway for the judges.

Apart from the fashion show festivals which I have been to, this was the first time I was at a modelling competition where the contestants would be judged for their walks, confidence, style and more. Well, if given a choice of course I would want to be the model :) Judge (a girl has the right to dream isn't that true?)

So the rest of the attendees, like myself (thanks to The Influencer Network), supporters, friends and families of the participants were treated to an array of performances. There were solo performers as well as groups like Mac Mcanas, Sukafellas, Jumali Sanotri, Fauzan Walkwayz and more. Honestly speaking, I am not well-versed with the music industry in Singapore. Listening to these performing artiste, they gave me a good reason to google them up and finding more about their music. It was a surprise treat for myself when I was there.

Now as a treat to my readers, here are some of the pictures of the pretty and handsome people who were there at Mambo Beach Club!

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Thanks to The Influencer Network

When the show starts, it was a routine drill for all taking part in the pageant. Strut down the runway, self-introduction, answering a question from the box and that's it. Seems simple enough but I guess it require a lot of confidence to carry out such simple task while it is clear that you will be judged by professionals. Thus, the pressure is ON!

One of the highlight during the performances was the showcase of the Ulek Mayang Legendary Runway performed by the group of professional models from D'Agustera Modelling & Bridal Agency.

It was overwhelming to me as the performance came across as a  sharp and great blow to my mind with such powerful performance by the models. 
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The panel of judges consists of  Ms Brenda Nonis-Desker (Asia Pacific Queen of Substance 2014), Shahid Mazali (Mister Asian World Winner), Elya's Elween (Owner of Elya's Elween Bridal), S. Vanithadevi (Mrs Singapore India 2013), Queeny Cleopatra Loh (Founder of Queeny Closet), Shidah Sari (Owner of D'Agustera Sari Bridal/Modelling Agency) and Azma Wati (Ambassador Ibu of the Year 2013/14).

All these people who have walked the same path and emerged as winners in their own field have earned that title and position to sit at the table today not only to judge the participants but to give their insights and input to help another individual. Everyone who participated are winners for the day as this is one stepping stone in their journey towards greater success.
As each participant stepped up to pick their question from the MC, they have to deliver their answer to the judges and to the floor, showcasing not only their talent in looks and fashion but the essence of their character and thoughts.
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I can feel the nervousness for them as they have to answer through the questions within such a short time. However I feel that they may have been briefed to be prepared in the sense the general questions which have always been asked during beauty pageants. Questions like "What does style means to you?", "How do you define a woman from a girl?" know the drill. I wasn't personally impressed by the questions nor answers. Well, I am not the judge of things. (Meh) 
There was other segments such as the presentation of Sash to Queen of Hearts by Project Rice, headed by Ms Brenda Nonis-Desker and her team. There are more pictures which you can find from my Facebook account: sitishyuhaila.

While the judges were collating on the score and stuff, there was a long list of presentation awards that was done. To thank each and every individual (organisation) which help to make this event a success. I gotta thank Royalize International too for presenting an award to The Influencer Network which I collected on behalf of them. 

This must have been one long post for a long day of waiting and waiting. Although it was a great experience on a whole, the line-up of performance was really long and ventilation in the area was not working to its best. That was the part I guess the organiser or the venue could have advised the organiser that air-conditioning may not have been working to its optimum. Everyone was moving in and out of the main area which makes the air-conditioning of the place really unstable. Also I could see how hardworking the participants were. Their make-up area was done outside in the heat of Singapore weather, and they had to put on their thick costume and suits way before the whole event begin. So I can't even imagine but I can only applause for their effort and talent with all my heart.
As they say, The Sweat, The Time, The Devotion. It Pays off. COngratulations then not only to the winners because everyone who was there Is A Winner!
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Peace, zsiti

PS: If you feel you have what it takes, follow Royalize International on their Facebook Page here. It is in their vision to groom individuals and they believe in giving individuals chance to prove their worth to the world. Style it on~

Sunday, November 9, 2014

On 9:00 AM by siti shyuhaila in , , , , ,

How many times have we heard ourselves saying, " It is okay, I need to be more understanding and kind towards people because..." or "They need room to grow, so it is okay for me to feel this way, I hope things will change for the better".

Consideration, Empathy, Love and Understanding: These are the fundamentals in a relationship be it with your lover, family or friends but how many of us do really understand the priorities of exercising them well.

There is a thin line between being kind and being used. Be it emotionally or physically, we need to know and understand how our actions impact our feelings inside. I can be kind and generous all the while but if at the end of the day, I get saddened by feelings of dissatisfaction and unappreciated I have got to reflect on my own character. Was I doing things with sincerity or was there a motive behind it which lead to the grudge that I hold inside because it did not go my way. Another example would be, how can I be happy that I keep giving and pouring into other people's lives but nobody come to put happiness or love into mine? Am I doing something wrong?

I never believe in the saying: Everybody comes first. Simply because what if there is danger in front? then what if there is a lot of goodness in front? We can never know unless we are there. So to make things simple for myself, I choose to put myself first. Be it pain or gain, I take my stand first and when I have cleared the path of any unknowing danger or pitfall, I do my best to bring others up as well. When the path ahead brings a lot of goodness, I learn that I must not be greedy so I can bring along friends and loved ones whom I care to enjoy the fruits of the labour.

Another good example would be (for those travellers, you may know this): during the in-flight emergency procedures briefing, everyone is being told that when the oxygen mask is being activated "Put on your own mask First, before helping another person or a child". Why not the other way around? For some reasons or another the other person may not have a normal ability to do so or it could be an infant or a little child which means if you have helped them first and you did not "survived" that ordeal, how would that help them after that? Will they be able to escape the plane safely? I mean we may not know but going by logical reasons, if putting on an oxygen mask may be a challenge for them then how about escaping danger.

This is one classic example where putting yourself first does not mean that you are being selfish or a b*t*ch. It means survivability and also going a longer way so that you can help more people effectively. When I am being kind to people, patronising them, letting them have their way even when it is wrong these people in fact gets disillusioned into thinking that it is okay. You know, if I can handle it maybe others can too. But the truth is, it may not be the case. If that person is a friend and as your friend you do not show them the true ways to correct their behaviour, you are putting that friend in a danger zone. 

They may choose to continue with their wilful behaviour and keep on affecting more and more people just because they are used to having "friends" like you: Adapting, accommodating and being "kind". However, one day when someone may not able to take it anymore and decide to stand up for themselves and show the ugliness of your friend to themselves. Wont' you be worried they may question you with things like " why didn't you tell me this before? am I that bad?" Of course you can continue to feed into their disillusion by assuring them that they are okay or they need more time but let's face it nothing comes for free. Any time that you spent consoling a person who have not seen their mistakes to be given a chance to change, you are just spending your own time and effort on something which is of no value. On the other hand, being candid to your loved ones will ensure that you are able to help them to become a better person. Why fear them hating on you? why be afraid that they may crumble and fall? If your intention and purpose is to help someone become better, it has to be consistent and done with a touch of finesse and EQ.

Choosing the path to help people is never easy and it always require a lot of love and patience but everything needs education and discipline. When you are candid, you share with people their faults that you see because you wanted to work together with them to solve any issues. To be transparent however is not about being downright rude or degrading, these are people whom you care so it's not about putting yourself on the pedestal high up there as if you are God. WE are all humans and we are born to err, we live, work and depend on one another as mirror reflections for one another.